not really, but do you remember the last time you received a handwritten letter from someone? or the last time you sent a hand written note to someone? do you recall the days when getting the mail was exciting…..the possibility of a letter from a friend or family member? or lover? the anticipation? or the surprise? those days a re long gone.
random acts of kindness pledge-day 4: writing a hand written letter to my best friend, sarah.
we have been friends since age 14. we’ve laughed, screamed, cried, fought with such loud vocalizations, God was telling us to shut up. thankfully we never really physically fought, although we did once get into a physical brawl over a beer in high school. go figure. that was quite a funny scene as i recall. teenagers! we were trouble back in the day.
so… i was thinking of dear sarah, and decided to sit down and hand write a letter to her. i wanted to be personal, and a text or email just didn’t feel personal. we use to exchange “notes” in high school daily. personal little letters. with silly sketches and drawings. it was so fun. and the handwritten quality of the notes made them personal. writing with a pen takes effort and more time then a text or email. you have some thoughts. you put them down, pen to paper. stuff it in an envelope. throw a stamp on and hand it to the postman. the receiver gets your thoughts a few days later. not instantly via text or email. there is an excitement nowadays, i would imagine, when a letter is found in ones mailbox. it is a nearly extinct practice today.
with all the advancement in technology, the human race has become much less personable. less social. less friendly. and much less authentic. there is no need to be as real anymore. at least not socially. true face-time is limited for many these days. and im not talking about the video chat application. im referring to real face to face time spent together talking. luckily most people still need to show up for work and school, so there is some human interaction there. but it is far less than it was 15 or 20 years ago. everyone is hiding behind their online profiles. there is no need to be real and truly personal today, cause we are able to hide behind the facade of a social presence…called facebook. pinterest. twitter. foursquare. and the like. as well as text messages and emails. it’s the perfect hideout, especially for introverts like myself. i do it. im guilty.
however, i don’t think its the healthiest way to “socialize.” or to show kindness or sentiment. some things should be left offline. which brings me back to the hand written letter to sarah. i could have easily sent her a text message saying “hey, thinking of you and missing you.”
blah. in using that route all the time, the meaning gets lost after a while.
but a hand written letter, unexpected. that my friends, will put a big smile on sarah’s face…i suspect.
and so my 4th random act of kindness has been completed. and in writing that letter, i got a rush of great memories of our fun times together back in the day…before marriage, kids, careers, and life stepped in. it felt good putting pen to paper.
i hope she doesn’t see this blog post before her letter arrives.