32 random things that make me smile, feel good, or otherwise experience warm ‘n’ fuzzy feelings inside.

(For my Aunt Cindi)

In no particular order…

1.  seeing elderly couples walking hand in hand.

2.  witnessing humans and animals coexisting in harmony.

3.  making someone laugh.

4.  making someone smile.

5.  the sound of rain.

6.  sunday fundays.

7.  sleepovers with my closest girlfriends.

8.  breakfast for dinner.

9.  coffee in bed.

10.  dancing alone (naked) in my apartment.

11.  (good) hugs.

12.  kissing.

13.  people watching.

14.  seeing a shooting star.

15.  random acts of affection/kindness.

16.  giving (thoughtful) gifts.

17.  no obligation days.

18.  tax refunds.

19.  facebook likes.

20.  the perfect song at the perfect time.

21.  walking my girlfriends dogs in central park.

22.  getting lost in an unknown city.

23.  compliments.

24.  when i fit into my “skinny” jeans.

25.  laughing so hard my abs burn.

26.  when my apartment is really clean.

27.  fresh clean sheets.

28.  skeeball.

29.  the dragon ride at the santa monica pier.

30.  reading quietly in bed with my GF.

31.  married gay/lesbian couples.

32.  noticing something new in the city i have lived in my whole life.

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27 Random Things That BUG Me.

In no particular order…

1.  the sound of a traditional alarm clock.

2.  people who talk loud at the gym.  especially if they are trying to talk to me.

3.  having to take the trash out.

4.  pulling the little cap off a fresh carton of soy milk.  The plastic cap part that is left over bugs me.

5.  waking up to coffee with no soy milk. (always a dangerous moment in time)

6.  the packaging design for nicorette gum.  it’s so hard to open one piece of gum. it’s torture for a person trying to quit smoking!

7.  People that smack their food…chewing loudly.

8.  having to take the recycling out.

9.  hair that gathers in the shower drain.

10.  really hot food or drink.

11.  loud bass booming cars driving the streets.

12.  slow drivers.

13.  potholes.

14.  speed bumps.

15.  people who talk just for the sake of talking.  in other words, people who talk too much.

16.  wire hangers.  I hate wire hangers.

17.  the sound of styrofoam rubbing against another object.

18.  people who walk slow.

19.  receipts.

20.  pennies.

21.  women who comes to the gym dressed for the night club.

22.  grunters at the gym.

23.  people who smack their gum!!!

24. running out of quarters for my laundry.

25.  not getting text messages returned in a timely manner.

26.  having to replace the toilet paper.

27.  needing to stop for gas.

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Our planet is pissed.

We hear it all the time.  our planet and all its sentient beings, are in danger.  Well, it is the truth.  And we need to open our eyes and become aware of what the hell is going on!  Climate change/global warming is not a hoax people.  Look at the stats.  Look at our climate patterns in the recent years.  Change is occurring, and it is fierce.  Most people feel the problem is too big.  We are in way over our heads.  Nothing can be done, etc.  I use to be one of those ignorant, non educated, fearful of the truth, cover thy eyes & ears kind of person.  Not anymore.  Today I choose to do what i can to be part of the solution, not the growing problem.  I’m not perfect, but I at least put forth an effort!

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First of all…what is the cause of global warming?  There are several greenhouse gases responsible for global warming.  Human beings contribute to their production in many ways..the burning of fossil fuels in cars, factories, and electricity production.  Carbon Dioxide  is the number one contributor to global warming.  Methane is another gas which is released at an alarming rate…a large percentage coming from the digestive systems of grazing farm animals, from landfills, and other agricultural sources.  Nitrous oxide is another big contributor, produced largely from fertilizers.  The decrease in forests is a problem, since trees store CO2, the main culprit of global warming.  This is just a small summary to give an idea of where the problem comes from.

Changing our daily lives by incorporating more renewable energy sources is important…replacing lightbulbs with more energy-efficient ones.  Driving less or perhaps investing in a hybrid car.  Reduce. Reuse. Recycle.  Unplug appliances you aren’t using. etc. are all good ways to take part in reducing energy use. .  But let me share with you one HUGE step you can take to have an immediate impact on our environment and it’s future well-being.  Stop eating meat.  The following information is knowledge everyone should have.  It is vital to the well being of our planet.

the following article by contributor Michelle Maisto, published on April 28, 2012 by Forbes explains very clearly the issues with meat production and it’s effect on global warming:

Shifting the world’s reliance on fossil fuels to renewable energy sources is important, certainly. But the world’s best chance for achieving timely, disaster-averting climate change may actually be a vegetarian diet eating less meat, according to a recent report in World Watch Magazine. (While I’d happily nudge the world toward a vegetarian diet, the report authors are more measured and simply suggest diets containing less meat.)

“The entire goal of today’s international climate objectives can be achieved by replacing just one-fourth of today’s least eco-friendly food products with better alternatives,” co-author Robert Goodland, a former World Bank Group environmental advisor wrote in an April 18 blog post on the report.

A widely cited 2006 report estimated that 18% of worldwide greenhouse gas emissions were attributable to cattle, buffalo, sheep, goats, camels, pigs and poultry. However, analysis performed by Goodland, with co-writer Jeff Anhang, an environmental specialist at the World Bank Group’s International Finance Corporation, found that figure to now more accurately be 51%.

Consequently, state the pair, replacing livestock products with meat alternatives would “have far more rapid effects on greenhouse gas emissions and their atmospheric concentrations — and thus on the rate the climate is warming — than actions to replace fossil fuels with renewable energy.”

The pair describe several areas related to anthropogenic (human-caused) greenhouse gases that have been overlooked or underestimated. For example, livestock breathing. They explain:

[L]ivestock (like automobiles) are a human invention and convenience, not part of pre-human times, and a molecule of CO2 exhaled by livestock is no more natural than one from an auto tailpipe. Moreover, while over time an equilibrium of CO2 may exist between the amount respired by animals and the amount photosynthesized by plants, that equilibrium has never been static. Today, tens of billions more livestock are exhaling CO2 than in preindustrial days, while Earth’s photosynthetic capacity (its capacity to keep carbon out of the atmosphere by absorbing it in plant mass) has declined sharply as forest has been cleared. (Meanwhile, of course, we add more carbon to the air by burning fossil fuels, further overwhelming the carbon-absorption system.)

The human population is expected to grow by 35% between 2006 and 2050, while livestock numbers are expected to double during the same period.

“This would make the amount of livestock-related emissions even more unacceptable than today’s perilous levels,” states the report. “It also means that an effective strategy must involved replacing livestock products with better alternatives, rather than substituting one meat product with another that has a somewhat lower carbon footprint.”

Food companies, Goodland and Anhang believe, have at least three incentives to respond to current risks in their industry. The first is that companies already suffer from disruptive climate events — floods, hurricanes, etc. — and so it’s in their best interests to not worsen the situation.

Second, they expect the demand for oil to rise to point of collapsing “many parts of today’s economy.” One way in which this will be particularly troublesome for livestock producers will be that crops grown for feed will be refocused on biofuel sources.

A third incentive is to offer “alternatives to livestock products that taste similar but are easier to cook, less expensive and healthier, and so are better than livestock products.”

Sales of just soy “analogs,” or alternatives to livestock products — such as ice cream, milk and cheese — totaled $1.9 billion in 2007. That same year, sales of U.S. meat and poultry products totaled $100 billion — which they optimistically suggest means there’s much room for growth.

“Worldwide, the market for meat and dairy analogs is potentially almost as big as the market for livestock products,” they write.

Still further motivation, they note: “Meat and dairy analog projects will not only slow climate change but also help ease the global food crisis, as it takes a much smaller quantity of crops to produce any given number of calories in the form of an analog than a livestock product.”

Plus, meat alternatives  would help to alleviate the global water crisis, since livestock production uses a tremendous amount of water; it could have health and nutritional benefits; and, given that meat alternatives are more labor intensive, they would create both more jobs and more skilled jobs — while workers in the livestock industry could be retrained for jobs in meat-alternative industries.

“The case for change is no longer only a public policy or an ethical case, but is now also a business case,” write Goodland and Anhang. “We believe it is the best available business case among all industries to reverse climate change quickly.”

   Forbes, Michelle Maisto, contributor.

After reading the above article, I felt even better about my choice to become a vegan  a year and some months ago.  I’m not only saving the lives of animals, but I am also decreasing my carbon footprint in a very big way by not eating meat/dairy.

If you don’t already live by a vegetarian or vegan diet, I urge you to consider eliminating, or at least decreasing your meat consumption.  The facts are there and you do have the power to contribute towards a better, healthier, happier, and less destructive future for yourself and those to follow.

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feelings & thoughts are not facts

our thoughts are constantly in over-drive.  actually, let me just speak for myself here…my thoughts are constantly in over-drive.

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thoughts help us to interpret the world and what goes on all around us.  our thoughts describe to us what is happening.  they interpret sights, sounds, scent, feelings, etc.  unconsciously, we are constantly using interpretation and giving meaning to all things happening around us.  we decide if something is bad, good, dangerous, immoral, etc.

because we are all individuals with different life experiences, different cultures, different upbringings, different beliefs, we likely come to different conclusions and interpretations for what we experience around us then someone else might.  these perceptions of ours…these interpretations, result in feelings.  there is an occurrence which triggers a thought which triggers a feeling/emotion.  for me, this is where the danger can manifest if I am not careful.

I tend to automatically believe my thoughts.  I don’t usually stop to question their validity.  and what helps them become more believable for me is the fact that they are habitual.  my thoughts tend to repeat over and over and over again, becoming very habitual and persistent.  these thoughts then set off a whole new set of  relatable thoughts that make me feel even worse, triggering more negative feelings/emotions.

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so where is the problem in all this?

my feelings begin to run my life.  with all the faulty thinking and wiring upstairs…feelings and emotions that usually are uncomfortable or bad begin to take over….my mood rises to the occasion.  i become irritable.  depressed.  angry.  sad.  hurt. etc.  character defects pop like corn in a hot skillet.  flying in all directions.  and before i know it, my life is miserable.  and it all started from one single thought.  that led to a feeling.  that led to irrational beliefs about myself, others, or the world around me.  my feelings have the muscle to run my life.  and that, my friends, is never a good thing.  it is very alcoholic living, thinking, and breathing.  for me, faulty thinking=destructive living.  and a shaky sobriety.

why do the bad feelings overtake the good feelings?  i don’t have a definitive answer to that question.  all i know is they do.  for me it’s easier to absorb the bad then the good.  it is also easier to remember the bad then the good most of the time.

here are some popular negative feelings that have the ability to haunt me and run my life if i allow them to:

anger. insecurity. jealousy. envy. fear. sadness. disappointment. empty. hesitant. despair. frustration. tragic. useless. unhappy. rejected. nervous. anxious. worried. restless. insensitive. disinterested. cold. lifeless. dull. stupid. resentful. shy. distrustful. alone. provoked. scared. guilty. powerless. irritated. hateful. ashamed.

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when i repeat my faulty thinking over and over again and allow these kinds of feelings to be triggered and i engage in them, they become very powerful.  i begin to identify with these negative feelings and i believe i am what these feelings tell me i am….angry. fearful. unimportant. but the truth is, these are just feelings that are ever-changing.  they are not facts.

in order to not let my feelings and thoughts overtake and run my day-to-day life, i must have a strong sense of emotional awareness.  an awareness of HOW I FEEL, not WHO I AM. having such an awareness can help me to stay on track and remember that who i am has very little to do with how i feel.  it is beneath all the feelings that my true self resides. seeing through the debilitating thoughts and feelings is all part of the process of discovering my authentic, sober self. i have spent most of my life identifying who i am based on my feelings.  good or bad.  but the truth is, there really are no good or bad emotions once we dig deep enough to get to their roots.

it all boils down to cause and effect.  once that relationship is discovered, we can affect positive change within.  we have the choice.

i have the choice to be happy, grateful, and serene…or i have the choice to forego happiness, and give in to the false belief system run by my thoughts and feelings for the past 36 years.

im working towards on an increase in daily happiness and gratitude through positive perception and thinking and strengthening of my own emotional self awareness…..one day at a time.

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