1 year. 8 months. 25 days.
That is how long I have been clean and sober, today. One day at a time. One feeling/emotion at a time. One life event at a time. One solution at a time.
My life is so good today. And it is changing daily. So many experiences have manifested since I chose to show up for my life. 1 year, 8 months, and 25 days ago I was emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. I was sick. Hung-over. Ashamed of my behavior and my life. I was angry and scared. I was tired…exhausted. I had no love for myself, and I certainly didn’t know how to love you. I wanted to just vanish.
I am no longer that person. I am not ashamed of who I am and the life I live and am no longer a puppet for the fear and anxiety that barely strung me along.
Life presents itself in so many forms, and today I embrace it, even if it is scary. Even if I am unsure. Even if I feel incapable of succeeding. Where my thinking can destroy me, my perception can save me. And with that truth I can trudge through anything. My world has changed dramatically since sobriety became my number one focus. I recently left my job, after over a decade of working there. I love the company I worked for. I love the friendships I have made there. However, it was time for me to move on. To extend my creative playing field a bit more. I needed a change. And I went for it. If I was not sober…if I had not worked this program during the past year and 8 months, I would never have followed through with my desire to grow in my career, and thus leave my job. I would never have had the courage to do it. Fear would have continued to consume me and I would likely have stayed where I was… comfortable, and therefore “safe.” Today I see that as nice as it is to feel safe, there comes a time when risks need to be taken in order for growth to occur.
I am constantly growing.
Becoming a vegan has been a beautiful transformation for me in sobriety. I realized the true definition of compassion. After becoming sober, I became more present and aware of the horrible ways our human race treat animals that are slaughtered for food consumption. I could no longer be a consumer of meat and dairy after I witnessed the truth behind factory farming….because for me, it was not a compassionate, loving way to live any longer. Sobriety brings many truths and many gifts. Becoming vegan was one of them for me.
And more is constantly revealed.
I am in a committed, loving relationship with a truly beautiful, sober woman. I get the opportunity to live a bi-coastal life, bouncing between New York and Los Angeles, living in the two best cities in the country, in my opinion. Sobriety has given me this gift. The confidence to be myself in my relationship. Genuine and authentic. Sobriety has taught me that with truth and honesty, grows intimacy. And with intimacy, grows love. Sobriety has taught me that my character defects do not define me, and I am lovable even with my faults. My confidence and self-worth has blossomed, naturally. I have learned the importance of loving without expectation.
Serenity is always near, should I want it.
I have sobriety to thank for that. I wasn’t expecting to grow so much and have such awesome experiences in such a short period of time. But it has happened, and if I continue to do the work, I suspect more gifts from life will appear, and growth will continue.
There are key tools for living that help make it easier….I have a couple go to suggestions that help me along the way…
The best tools for my life are: Understanding and accepting that I am not in control. Knowing and believing that most of my thinking and fears are not reality. Realizing that if I just do the next indicated thing, and stay out of the results, life will work itself out. It is all very simple, really. And if I continue to live by these simple rules, I can say to myself:
and for that, i am grateful!
Till next time…